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HAPPINESS COMES FROM WITHIN NOT WITHOUT



Many people want to believe that finding happiness is all about finding something else they want but this is not so in many cases. Not many have really found long term happiness by achieving another goal or fulfilment. The answer to finding real happiness is to look within.
In other words, happiness is completely an inside job. The most important piece to finding happiness is to comprehend happiness as a choice and not the result of an experience. If all happiness is all about the result of an acquisition, meeting a goal, or having anything, then a person's happiness would always be subject to something else.

Someone once told me that happiness is simply the absence of an opposite emotion whether it is pain, sadness or something else. But I disagreed because If the opposite emotions are never experienced then happiness can never be experienced either. Think about it like this: bad times allow you to appreciate good times; hunger allows you to appreciate food; and sadness allows you to appreciate and experience happiness. I checked through various dictionaries to get the perfect definition and this is the definition I love most “happiness is a state of well being characterised by emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy”. I love the word contentment from the definition.  To be content means to be satisfied or pleased. So it doesn’t matter what is it you are going through or the circumstances that surrounds you at the moment, the good news is that despite the outside heat/emotions, you can still be happy.

How often do you hear people say, "I'll be happy when I get that job, I'll be happy when I find a life partner. I'd be happy if I had more money” These, and all the other "if I had", scenarios are following the same analysis that happiness is based on external circumstances. But the truth is, if you base your happiness on external circumstances, you will continuously fail to find happiness. There will always, always be another external circumstance. There will always be another money, another job, another house, or another partner. There will be something better, more, much more. So to break this sadistic cycle, we must learn to find our happiness somewhere else and that somewhere else is within.

I however realize that this concept is very difficult for some to accept. (It used to be difficult for me too not until I understood what happiness really meant). However, the alternative to being happy now is to spend the rest of our lives seeking happiness as if happiness was an item to be bought or found. But it’s not.

Allow yourself to find happiness within you. If life was perfect would you be happy? Life is perfect because we create it with our choices. Since we can create life, we can create happiness - and how much better can it get? When we can accept that life is perfect as it is and that our lives are the sum total of everything that has happened to this instant, only then can we accept the joy and happiness we deserve.

Don’t worry! Be happy! Be Blissful!

Ciana Joy Cares!!



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